What a man wants (4)



The fourth thing a man wants is "Insight": ‘Be grateful for his desire to analyze and give advice" (Emerson Eggerich, "Love & Respect").



A man's mind is analytical. His analytical mind makes him solve the problem when he comes across any problem. A woman must understand and respect his problem-solving approach. To do so, when a couple is talking to each other with a problem, the wife should not complain when her husband analyzes the problem and presents a solution. Of course, from a woman's point of view, her husband would rather let her voice be heard and heard rather than analyzing and solving the problem, but if she honestly respects her husband, she must learn how to listen to her. To do that, the woman must be able to lay down her intuitive mind and listen to her husband. Of course, it does not mean that a woman's intuition is wrong. The reason is that women’s intuition is often right (although it does not make sense in a man’s analytical mindset). So in marital relations, both husband's insight and wife's intuition are needed. But here we are talking about what a man wants when a woman puts down her intuitive mind and tries to listen in a respectful way to the solution presented in her husband's analytical mind, . She should praise her husband for recognizing that God is the leader she has established in the home and respecting her efforts to solve the problem in her analytical mind. She should be grateful when her husband analyzes the problem and advises her on the solution, and she should also show her thanks.


            But if the woman doesn’t lay down her intuitive mind and ignores the man's analytical mind, she cannot build a satisfying marriage relationship.  Furthermore, if she ignores her husband's analytical mind, she may sin against God.  For example, look at Adam and Eve in the book of Genesis in the Bible.  When Eve was tempted by the serpent, she was deceived and ate the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil that God told Adam not to eat.  If she had an insight, she would not have eaten that fruit.  But her intuitive mind may have thought that if she ate the fruit, then it would give her wisdom as the serpent said.  Ultimately, she concluded that she knew much more about what was best for herself and her husband thus influenced her husband Adam to follow her (Eggerich).  She rejected Adam's lead.  And the Adam’s sin was refusing to lead his wife.  Adam, with his insight, should have refused his wife's wrong influence, but he couldn’t.  And Eve, who relied on her intuitive mind, is guilty of being tempted by the serpent and ate the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil and made her husband Adam to sin together.  What if Adam had used his insight and had given a right advice to his wife Eve?  And what would have happened if Eve had obeyed the Adam’s advice?  In the end, both Adam and Eve failed to fulfill their responsibilities.  Adam should have reminded Eve of the command of God by exercising his insight and telling his wife Eve not to eat the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil.  And Eve should have accepted the Adam’s advice and not eat the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil.  But as we know, the couple didn’t take their own responsibilities.  Therefore, sin entered the world and death through sin (Rom. 5:12).


            The woman needs the man's insight.  She should be grateful for his guidance with insight.  She should listen to her husband’s advice.  If she realizes the necessity of her husband's insight early and live her life together with him by harmonizing her intuition with her husband's insight, then she will be able to keep the unity of the husband and wife.